Living an Ordered Life

Prov 29:16-27

SS Lesson for 10/02/2011

 

Devotional Scripture: Rom 12:3-21

Introduction

Overview and Approach to Lesson

The concept of the outline of the lesson came from the NIV Standard Lesson Commentary. It teaches about ten ways to obtain Living an Ordered Life.  The study's aim is to emphasize that trusting God is the key ingredient for an ordered life. The study's application is to reveal that when we trust and obey God, we will not be afraid of man but will experience a safe and peaceful life.

 

Lesson Introduction and Background

From the NIV Standard Lesson Commentary

Living an Ordered Life

Gordon MacDonald’s well-known book Ordering Your Private World appeared in 1984. It received the Gold Medallion Book Award for evangelical Christian literature. It was written for all those who felt disorganized or even a failure. MacDonald wrote about principles that help a person order his or her inner life. With over a million and a half copies in print, the book struck a chord. However, the Christian world was shocked when in 1987 Gordon MacDonald admitted to having been unfaithful in his marriage. There was a collective groan among Christian leaders, for such sins had occurred (and still occur) far too often. The good news is that Gordon MacDonald acknowledged his sin, submitted to pastoral discipline, and recommitted himself to his family. Returning to Christian ministry would wait, but it did happen. Restoration was complete. In other words, MacDonald (eventually) followed his own principles. The book of Proverbs provides many principles that help a person lead an ordered public and private life. No one is perfect in applying these principles, but that does not excuse God’s people from trying. Most of these principles can be found in the New Testament, and thus we discover how relevant they are for today’s Christian. Living an ordered life should be a priority for all Christians. This lesson is developed to help us understand, identify, and apply some principles from Proverbs.

 

Lesson Background

The background for our lesson is the same as last week, thus that information need not be repeated here. The contrast between the righteous and the wicked seems to be a way of structuring Proverbs 28 and 29, within which today’s lesson text occurs (see Proverbs 28:1, 12, 28; 29:16, 27). Thus, we can discern four sections in these two chapters (that is, Proverbs 28:1-11, 12-28; 29:1-15, and 16-27). Our lesson addresses the fourth of these sections.

In general, Proverbs 28:1-29:27 presents the wicked or greedy person as one who disrupts harmony and security by ignoring God’s law. Examples illustrate this in a variety of ways. In presenting these principles and illustrations, the proverbs are given in Hebrew poetic style, which is characterized by parallelism. Sometimes the parallel lines are set in opposition to one another (which is called antithetic parallelism); at other times the second line continues the thought of the first line (which is called synthetic parallelism). In addressing the principles from Proverbs 29:17-26 for ordering one’s life, I have turned many of the negative statements into positive principles by taking the opposing thought that is implied to the proverb at hand.

 

From the Bible Expositor and Illuminator

Much of our modern social life is in disorder and disarray. Our morning newspapers and evening newscasts alike reveal the scope of this disorder. Street crime keeps inner-city neighborhoods on edge. Promising young people ruin their lives with drugs and alcohol. Marriage partners cannot find enough in common to hold their unions together. Sexual predators prey on the innocent and helpless. Even rural communities fall victim to crime sprees by persons with disordered minds. The economy founders as both corporate titans and petty bookkeepers use their positions to fleece unsuspecting investors. Scams targeting the uneducated or the elderly surface almost daily. Government officials, who should be guardians of ethics and legality, are themselves caught using taxpayer money for personal gain. Add to these things the perennial threat of international war and terror, and the world becomes a frightening, unstable place. We know these problems will not cease until Jesus the Messiah returns to rule. Nevertheless, the presence and influence of God's people should keep evil within bounds until He comes. This week we look at what it means to have an ordered life. Life seems ever so busy nowadays, and there is hardly anyone who is not spinning his wheels in some kind of endless activity. Our lesson shows us that when we trust God, we can have an ordered life that is pleasing to Him. There is hardly anyone who does not want a life that is orderly and peaceful. We want to experience safety and comfort, and much of what we do daily is geared toward that ultimate state of fulfillment that we hope to achieve someday. Sometimes fear, even fear of the unknown, can take over our lives and paralyze us. The Bible, however, gives us the way to peace, showing us that when we truly trust God, we can have a peaceful and orderly life.

 

Major Theme Analysis

(Scriptural Text from the New King James Version; cross-references from the NIV)

Scriptural Text: Prov 29:16-27

 

16 When the wicked are multiplied, transgression increases; But the righteous will see their fall.

17 Correct your son, and he will give you rest; Yes, he will give delight to your soul.

18 Where there is no revelation, the people cast off restraint; But happy is he who keeps the law.

19 A servant will not be corrected by mere words; For though he understands, he will not respond.

20 Do you see a man hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him.

21 He who pampers his servant from childhood Will have him as a son in the end.

22 An angry man stirs up strife, And a furious man abounds in transgression.

23 A man's pride will bring him low, But the humble in spirit will retain honor.

24 Whoever is a partner with a thief hates his own life; He swears to tell the truth, but reveals nothing.

25 The fear of man brings a snare, But whoever trusts in the Lord shall be safe.

26 Many seek the ruler's favor, But justice for man comes from the Lord.

27 An unjust man is an abomination to the righteous, And he who is upright in the way is an abomination to the wicked.

 

Ten Traits and Relationships that Lead to Living an Orderly Life

 

1.   Teachable Children (17)

Children that are obedient (Eph 6:1-4)

6 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 "Honor your father and mother"-which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 "that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth." 4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Children that have endured discipline (Heb 12:7-11)

7 Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father? 8 If you are not disciplined (and everyone undergoes discipline), then you are illegitimate children and not true sons. 9 Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of our spirits and live! 10 Our fathers disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, that we may share in his holiness. 11 No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.

Children that believe and are not wild and disobedient (Titus 1:6)

6 An elder must be blameless, the husband of but one wife, a man whose children believe and are not open to the charge of being wild and disobedient.

Children that has had the rod of correction used (Prov 29:15)

15 The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother.

 

2.   Applying Scripture to life (18)

One must be a doer of God's word not just a hearer (James 1:22)

22 But prove yourselves doers of the word, and not merely hearers who delude themselves.

Only one who applies God's Word is in the family of God (Matt 12:50)

50 For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother."

Applying Scripture starts with examining the Scripture daily (Acts 17:11)

11 Now the Bereans were of more noble character than the Thessalonians, for they received the message with great eagerness and examined the Scriptures every day to see if what Paul said was true.

Applying Scripture is like a tree planted by the water (Ps 1:2-3)

2 But his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. 3 He is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither. Whatever he does prospers.

 

3.   Good Working Relationships (19)

A working relationship where everyone knows that our Master is in heaven (Eph 6:9)

9 And masters, treat your slaves in the same way. Do not threaten them, since you know that he who is both their Master and yours is in heaven, and there is no favoritism with him.

A working relationship where there is respect and sincerity (Eph 6:5-7)

5 Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ. 6 Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but like slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart. 7 Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men,

A working relationship where there is honesty (Deut 24:14-15)

14 Do not take advantage of a hired man who is poor and needy, whether he is a brother Israelite or an alien living in one of your towns. 15 Pay him his wages each day before sunset, because he is poor and is counting on it. Otherwise he may cry to the Lord against you, and you will be guilty of sin.

A working relationship where there is no envy and strife (Matt 20:8-15)

8 "When evening came, the owner of the vineyard said to his foreman, 'Call the workers and pay them their wages, beginning with the last ones hired and going on to the first.' 9 "The workers who were hired about the eleventh hour came and each received a denarius. 10 So when those came who were hired first, they expected to receive more. But each one of them also received a denarius. 11 When they received it, they began to grumble against the landowner. 12 'These men who were hired last worked only one hour,' they said, 'and you have made them equal to us who have borne the burden of the work and the heat of the day.' 13 "But he answered one of them, 'Friend, I am not being unfair to you. Didn't you agree to work for a denarius? 14 Take your pay and go. I want to give the man who was hired last the same as I gave you. 15 Don't I have the right to do what I want with my own money? Or are you envious because I am generous?'

 

4.   Wisdom in Speech (20)

Wise speech brings blessings when knowledge is spoken (Prov 15:2)

2 The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly.

Wise speech brings blessings when it brings healing (Prov 15:4)

4 The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.

Wise speech brings blessings when God provides instruction through it (Isa 50:4)

4 The Sovereign Lord has given me an instructed tongue, to know the word that sustains the weary. He wakens me morning by morning, wakens my ear to listen like one being taught.

Wise speech is guided by a godly mind (Prov 16:23)

23 A wise man's heart guides his mouth, and his lips promote instruction.

Wise speech is gracious (Eccl 10:12)

12 Words from a wise man's mouth are gracious, but a fool is consumed by his own lips.

 

 

5.   Instructing Properly (21)

Instructions through God's word (2 Tim 3:16-17)

16 All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, 17 so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.

Instructions through others (2 Tim 2:2)

2 And the things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable men who will also be qualified to teach others.

Instructions through parents (Eph 6:4)

4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Instructions through elders (Titus 2:3-5)

3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

 

6.   Anger Management (22)

Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry (Eph 4:26)

26 "In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,

Be slow to anger (James 1:19)

19 My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,

Anger leads only to evil (Ps 37:8)

8 Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret — it leads only to evil.

Anyone who is angry will be subject to judgment (Matt 5:21-22)

21 "You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, 'Do not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.' 22 But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to his brother, 'Raca,' is answerable to the Sanhedrin. But anyone who says, 'You fool!' will be in danger of the fire of hell.

Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God by being angry (Eph 4:30-32)

30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.

 

7.   Humble Honor (23)

Humility comes before honor (Prov 15:33)

33 The fear of the Lord teaches a man wisdom,  and humility comes before honor.

Humility is commanded (Phil 2:3)

3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.

We are to show humility toward all men (Titus 3:1-2)

3 Remind the people to be subject to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready to do whatever is good, 2 to slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and to show true humility toward all men.

Deeds done in humility shows wisdom (James 3:13)

13 Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom.

God gives grace to the humble (1 Peter 5:5)

5 Young men, in the same way be submissive to those who are older. All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble."

 

8.   Upright Associates (24)

Obtain upright associates by knowing wicked associates corrupts good character (1 Cor 15:33)

33 Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character."

Obtain upright associates by not following the wicked (Prov 4:14)

14 Do not set foot on the path of the wicked or walk in the way of evil men.

Obtain upright associates by not be yoked with unbelievers (2 Cor 6:14)

14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

Obtain upright associates by not taking counsel from the wicked (Ps 1:1)

1 Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers.

 

9.   Trust in God (25)

Trust God because God never forsakes those who seek Him (Ps 9:10)

10 Those who know your name will trust in you, for you, Lord, have never forsaken those who seek you.

Trust God because He is our God (Ps 31:14-15)

14 But I trust in you, O Lord; I say, "You are my God."  15 My times are in your hands; deliver me from my enemies and from those who pursue me.

Trust God so that God will make us righteous and just (Ps 37:5-6)

5 Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this:  6 He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun.

Trust God so that we will not be afraid (Ps 56:4)

4 In God, whose word I praise, in God I trust; I will not be afraid. What can mortal man do to me?

Trust God because no one else can save us (Ps 146:3-6)

3 Do not put your trust in princes, in mortal men, who cannot save. 4 When their spirit departs, they return to the ground; on that very day their plans come to nothing. 5 Blessed is he whose help is the God of Jacob, whose hope is in the Lord his God, 6 the Maker of heaven and earth, the sea, and everything in them —  the Lord, who remains faithful forever.

Trust God because He guides us in the straight ways (Prov 3:5-6)

5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;  6 in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.

Trust God so that we can be overflowed with hope (Rom 15:13)

13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

 

10. Dependence on God (26)

Depend on God because of His mercy (Rom 9:16)

16 It does not, therefore, depend on man's desire or effort, but on God's mercy.

Depend on God because He is a mighty rock (Ps 62:7)

7 My salvation and my honor depend on God; he is my mighty rock, my refuge.

Depend on God because I can take Him at His word (Acts 27:21-26)

21 After the men had gone a long time without food, Paul stood up before them and said: "Men, you should have taken my advice not to sail from Crete; then you would have spared yourselves this damage and loss. 22 But now I urge you to keep up your courage, because not one of you will be lost; only the ship will be destroyed. 23 Last night an angel of the God whose I am and whom I serve stood beside me 24 and said, 'Do not be afraid, Paul. You must stand trial before Caesar; and God has graciously given you the lives of all who sail with you.' 25 So keep up your courage, men, for I have faith in God that it will happen just as he told me. 26 Nevertheless, we must run aground on some island."

Depend on God because of His power  (2 Cor 1:9)

9 Indeed, in our hearts we felt the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead.

 

Conclusion and Other Thoughts

Concluding Thoughts from the NIV Standard Lesson Commentary

Let us group these 10 principles for simplification. Group 1 consists of verses 18, 25, 26 in that they teach us to trust the Lord for our security and to look to him for true justice. Group 2 consists of verses 19, 20, 22, 23, 24 in dealing with personal characteristics that enhance life. This grouping teaches us to maintain a humble spirit, be self-controlled, and have a listening ear. Respecting another’s humanity and dealing honestly with everyone is vital to relationships. Group 3 consists of verses 17 and 21. This grouping teaches us that discipline in family and work relationships is very important for the peace and rest it will provide. The New Testament teaches us all these principles and more. Let us practice these principles and thus live the ordered life in Christ.

 

Concluding Thoughts from the Bible Expositor and Illuminator

Literally, to "be safe" is "will be set on high." Israel offered a number of steep hills and mountains that provided a significant military advantage for those entrenched there. The hills near the Dead Sea are particularly famous for their steep inclines that made it nearly impossible to launch a successful military attack from below. Even the Roman army had significant difficulty launching a successful attack on the settlement of Masada, perched on a plateau in the Dead Sea region. Similarly, the cliffs around En-gedi afforded refuge for David and his men when Saul was in pursuit (I Sam. 23:29). The one who trusts in the Lord is as safe as one who is secluded in the mountains. This proverb makes an interesting contrast between fear of man and trust in God. The text could have contrasted fear of man with fear of the Lord. This is the contrast that Jesus drew elsewhere: "Fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell" (Matt. 10:28). The implication of the proverb's contrast is that when we fear man, it is because we do not trust God enough. When we trust God, He will protect us from everyone who would seek to harm us in any way. In the Bible, we most often read about the fear of man in the context of warfare. David and other psalmists prayed for protection against their enemies and expressed their trust in God in the midst of physical danger. For example, one psalm of David states, "Though an host should encamp against me, my heart shall not fear: though war should rise against me, in this will I be confident" (27:3). It is in this military context that the same psalm begins, "The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? the Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?" (vs. 1). Fear of man is not something experienced only by soldiers, however; it is a temptation that confronts each one of us. Whenever we value the opinions of men more than the opinion of God, we exhibit a sinful fear of man and a lack of trust in God and His promises. Of course, the commands against fearing men do not prevent us from showing proper respect to others. As Christians, we are called to honor and respect our employers, our government, our parents, and many others. But we show this respect out of our deeper respect for God, and when our allegiances come into conflict, we honor God rather than men. Christ offered a perfect example of respecting authority while not fearing man. His submission to the cross was, on one level, an act of submission to the Roman authorities. Though He could have called upon angels to rescue Him, He instead chose to submit. But His submission was really an act of submission to the will of God, and He reminded Pilate of this in a way that expressed His complete lack of fear of Pilate's power. When Pilate threatened Him with his authority, Jesus replied, "Thou couldest have no power at all against me, except it were given thee from above" (John 19:11). The New Testament gives us even more reason not to fear the face of man. Paul said that since Jesus Christ has died and risen on our behalf, we know that God is for us; and "if God be for us, who can be against us?" (Rom. 8:31).

 

Practical Points from the Bible Expositor and Illuminator

1.      Even in the midst of a wicked world, God's justice is not thwarted (Prov. 29:16; cf. vs. 26)

2.      Some think discipline is a killjoy, but the Scriptures teach that discipline is key to true happiness (vs. 17-21)

3.      Many sins, such as lying and drunkenness, spring easily from anger (vs. 22)

4.      The world prizes pride, but God honors humility (vs. 23)

5.      One will not escape the consequences of the company one keeps (vs. 24)

6.      If we exalt man, we find trouble. If we trust God, He exalts us (vs. 25-27)

 

Heart of the Lesson from the Bible Expositor and Illuminator

The sayings in Proverbs 29 are among those of Solomon that were collected and copied by Hezekiah's men (25:1). These proverbs express divine truths that encourage proper conduct and perspective. Most do so through comparisons.

 

Fall of the wicked (Prov. 29:16)

When wicked people rule (cf. vs. 2) or are prominent, evil tends to run rampant. We should not despair, however, for God promises that in the end we shall see the fall of the wicked and the establishment of righteousness.

 

Correcting a child (Prov. 29:17)

The child who is lovingly and consistently corrected will bring delight to the heart of his parents. There is no such assurance regarding a child who is allowed to go his own way in the name of "love."

 

Lack of revelation (Prov. 29:18)

"Vision" refers to divine revelation. Where God's Word is unknown or ignored, people go their own way. God's Word must be preached and made known if it is to be obeyed, and obedience to it is the only hope for a nation.

 

Wrong attitude (Prov. 29:19)

Those who are servants to others can develop very unresponsive attitudes. Since all believers are called to serve others, it is important to guard against such attitudes. We do so by remembering that we are following Christ in serving others (cf. Mark 10:45).

 

Hasty words (Prov. 29:20)

Words can be very destructive, so it is essential that we speak with much care and thought. When we are too quick to speak, we only demonstrate our foolishness.

 

Pampered servants (Prov. 29:21)

To pamper one's servant—today we would say employee—is to bring trouble in the end. Such treatment blurs the line between a hired worker and a son and creates many problems for the employer.

 

Anger (Prov. 29:22)

A person who is characterized by anger and angry outbursts never finds peace. He constantly stirs up strife and commits many sins. If we ever hope to make a positive impact on others, we must seek God's power to control our temper.

 

Pride (Prov. 29:23)

There is probably no more debilitating sin than that of pride. Pride causes one to ignore the concerns of God and people in the pursuit of one's own gratification. Humility is simply having a proper perspective of oneself in God's eyes. It will ultimately bring one great honor.

 

Unwise associations (Prov. 29:24)

Someone who makes thieves or other wicked people his associates is his own worst enemy. How important it is that one's closest friends are fellow believers!

 

Fearing man (Prov. 29:25)

When we are more concerned about how people perceive us than we are about how God views us, we are in a very unsafe place. There is complete safety, however, in putting our trust in God and pleasing Him.

 

Seeking favor (Prov. 29:26)

We should never put our hope in any person to give us justice. Only God is worthy of our complete trust.

 

A great divide (Prov. 29:27)

This proverb reminds us of the great gap between the righteous and the wicked. We should not think we can appease the wicked when they detest our godly behavior.